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You're not looking for a fairy tale.
You're looking for something real... for you and your kids.

Why your dating patterns teach your kids what love looks like and the simple 21-day system that helps you choose differently.

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21 days
20 min/day
6 Transformative
Tools
4-Step Focus
Dating Filter
And More! ↓
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It's not about "where" you're looking, it's "how"

You've healed, read the books, set boundaries. But dating still feels like a loop: big chemistry, mixed signals, disappointment, repeat.

You worry your kids are learning the wrong version of love by watching you try to figure it out.

If that hits, you're not broken. You're missing a system.
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If dating feels exhausting, confusing, or like the same patterns keep repeating…you're in the right place!
Morning:
"Today I'll be intentional." By lunch, a delayed text has you spiraling.
Midday:
You overanalyze tone, second-guess your needs, and start performing to keep interest.
Night:
You replay every word, promise yourself you'll "try harder," and feel further from the calm, healthy love you want for yourself and your family.
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The hardest part isn't the awkward dates, it's knowing your choices teach your kids what love looks like. You want to model safety, respect, and joy. You're ready to build it.
The Shift
Date with a plan, not a wish . . . calm, clear, and in control.
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Define the vision, role, and real non-negotiables
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Collect data, track patterns, filter early
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Regulate your nervous system so you lead, not react
What Starts Changing
You choose fit over fleeting sparks
You filter fast without closing your heart
You feel proud of your no's and excited by your yeses
Your kids see calm leadership and healthy love
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Why It Works
(The Science)
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Focus
Train your brain to notice alignment, not just attraction
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1% Compounding
Tiny consistent shifts out perform big bursts
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Cognitive Behaviorial Tools
Changing thoughts and inputs means changing results
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Regulation > Performance
A calm brain makes better choices
What's Included:
Daily flow:
  • Short lesson
  • One practical task (10-20 min)
  • Quick reflection
Core Tools You Will Get:
  • "Why?" Journal
  • Partner Role Description
  • Non-Negotiables Builder
  • Pattern Tracker
  • Trigger Tracker
  • Alignment Tracker
  • Confidence Builder
Helpful Extras:
  • First-date safety + simple scripts
  • Dating funnel diagram/examples
  • Open-ended question bank
  • Quick-calm practices for pre-date nerves
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Who this is for...
  • Single parents who want a partner that strengthens family
  • Anyone tired of performing and ready to lead with self-trust
  • People who want a system, not a pep talk
Who this is NOT for...
  • Shortcut seekers who skip the inner work
  • Chemistry-over-character daters
  • Anyone unwilling to hold their own standards
Your Journey Ahead
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(21 days • ~20 minutes/day)
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Week 1
Set the Foundation
Your why, partner role, strengths/edges, 1% growth, readiness, spotting readiness in others
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Week 2
Action Meets Alignment
Ask better questions, set non-negotiables, build your dating funnel, polish first impressions, say no sooner, flirt with presence
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Week 3
Building Real Connection
Stay you as it deepens, turn triggers into data, test consistency/communication, assess growth potential, weigh feedback, talk kids/values, integrate
14-DAY MONEY-BACK GUARANTEE
If you aren't completely satisfied with your 21-Day Dating System, let us know within the first 14-days for a full refund.
No questions asked.
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Hear it from them...
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I was hesitant at first to look at dating from a different perspective, but I knew I wasn't getting the results I wanted. Dr. Shannon's program shifted everything for me. Her approach helped me see my patterns clearly and make choices that actually aligned with the kind of relationship I wanted.

I feel more confident, more peaceful, and more hopeful than I have in years.

If you're feeling stuck, this will change things... for you and your family.
Amanda Dash
Amanda Dash
Happy Mom and Fiancé
When I first reached out to Shannon, I thought she was just going to introduce me to someone and then try to help me through the "get to know each other" phase. What I didn't expect was an entirely new way of looking at the dating process, and honestly taking time to ask myself what I actually want in a relationship.

After my divorce, I felt unsure about the whole process and wanted to consult with someone who had been divorced as well. Shannon had been in my shoes before and helped me realize it wasn't about where I was looking... it was about how I was looking. That shift in perspective changed everything for me. Nobody truly wins in a divorce and there are scars left behind. However, it is up to us to work on ourselves and learn to view those scars as a learning experience, not a life sentence.

Shannon's guidance gave me clarity, confidence, and a healthier approach to building a relationship. I'm incredibly grateful for the work we did together. I'm now in a wonderful marriage with an amazing woman, and I'm not sure I would've gotten there without her system. Thanks Shannon!
Kevin Jefferies
Kevin Jefferies
Happily Remarried
When I first heard Dr. Shannon explain her system, I knew immediately it was something I had never heard of before. And, it clicked. I knew it's what I needed. It was the first time dating actually made sense instead of feeling overwhelming or random. Her approach helped me stay clear, grounded, and intentional instead of repeating old patterns. I had direction towards what I wanted.

If you're a busy parent, you'll want a strategy to create the relationship you crave. This system gives you that. I'm so grateful I trusted and did this process... it changed everything for me and my family. I got engaged to the best partner for me this past Spring.
Kim Wunner
Kim Wunner
Engaged & Grateful
On my 40th birthday I found myself in a lawyer's office working out the details of my divorce. I had 2 kids and had never lived on my own. I had a low paying, dead end job with a demeaning boss. My future was not looking bright.

Two years later I was feeling even more hopeless! I was stuck in every way possible! Going nowhere in my job, financially struggling, my dating life was all over the place and my kids were miserable because I was miserable.

Then I stumbled on Dr. Shannon's plan! I had been in counseling for my past, but she showed me how to be strategic about my future! It took a LOT of courage and effort on my part, but I diligently went through the process of Dr. Shannon's plan. I began implementing her strategies in many areas of my life.

Nowadays I'm in a new career making more money than I ever have, happily married to a man who has the same values and priorities as me and have a better relationship with my kids than I have in years.

I've read plenty of self improvement books, but this program has the blueprint for success!
Melanie
Melanie
Career & Life Transformation
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Choose the Level of Support
that Fits Your Needs
No matter which tier you choose, you're investing in a healthier future for you and your kids.
Tier 1
$49
Limited Time Only!
$29
One-Time
The Guide
Self-starters who want the full system and prefer to work independently at their own pace.
*One time payment. Lifetime access.
  • The complete 21-day workbook (PDF)
    • Step-by-step daily structure inside the guide
    • Built-in worksheets and trackers within the PDF
  • All 6 transformative tools
  • The 4-Step Focused Dating Filter
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Tier 2
$599
Limited Time Only!
$299
Monthly
The Fast Track
The Guide + Daily Accountability + Community
For busy parents who want structure, accountability, and support to stay on track, without the investment of private coaching.
Includes everything in Tier 1, plus:
  • The complete 21-day workbook (PDF)
  • Video lessons for each day
  • Accountability, group support
  • Weekly 15-minute check-ins
  • Daily guided content
  • Bonus tools & exclusive resources
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Easy Cancellation Anytime!
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Private Coaching (By Application Only)
This is for parents who are dedicated about creating a healthy, long-term relationship and want individualized strategy, support, and accountability.
Includes everything in Tier 2, plus:
  • Personalized plan designed just for you
  • Weekly 1:1 coaching with Dr. Shannon
  • Direct access for resources and support
  • Deep work to transform patterns
  • Accelerated results with hands-on guidance
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About Me

I'm Dr. Shannon a pediatrician, former single mom, and creator of the 21-day dating system. After my divorce, I used simple, science-backed steps to break old patterns and choose healthy love.

Today, I'm a communication specialist helping families and teams connect and stay calm under stress. As a speaker, I'm constantly asked about the system I built so I turned it into clear, practical tools busy parents can use in minutes a day. My goal is to help you skip the struggles I went through and create a calmer home, healthier relationships, and real, lasting connection.

Practical, kind, and doable.

FAQs
Questions? Reach out today!
Do I have to be a single parent?
No. It's written for single parents, but it's powerful for anyone ready to build healthy love.
Will this make me "too picky"?
No, just precise. You'll filter sooner on what actually matters.
How much time does it take?
About 20 minutes a day. Busy season? Go at your pace, progress compounds.
Is this hetero-only?
No. The system fits across orientations and identities. Tailor your partner role description to you.
Chemistry is temporarily
intoxicating. Strategy lasts.

If dating is working for you, keep going. But if your time is precious, this 21-day plan saves hours and heartache with a simple 4-step filter (meet → message → strategic call → 60-minute first date), clear tools to stay calm and hold standards, and easy tracking to spot red and green flags fast.

It's built for busy parents who want results without wasting time on "maybes."

If you've got time to burn and love improvising, you don't need us otherwise, use a proven plan to find alignment faster and model healthy love for your kids.

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